March 09, 2010

Girlfriends

Just a few clarifications/additions to my last post:
  • The six glasses I broke actually weren't wine glasses (or even ones that we use, thank god) - they were decorative stemmed shot glasses (a weird Christmas gift...) that were sitting out on a shelf that I bumped into.
  • Thankfully the new furniture is very comfortable & yes, there is a recliner on each end of the couch, that was a non-negotiable for my husband. :)
  • We haven't had the old couch/chairs removed from our house yet, that will occur next Saturday. Sure hope no more walls get damaged.
  • Oh and Mom? I wish I could split a bottle of wine with your mother-in-law too.
Also, I didn't mean that my girlfriends were "busy" - I meant I don't have any. Well, none that are less than 300 miles away. To answer Diana's question, "BTW why did you move to the city you are in? Are you not originally from there? Is that why you don't have good gfs?" - I moved to Fort Collins for college in 2003 and have lived here ever since. Unfortunately, any friends I met in college have since moved on & out of this college town. I guess I'm just one of the few who stayed. Also, most of my friends were guys.

The girlfriend issue has been bugging me a lot lately - I had a dream recently where I had to admit that I didn't have any close friends & I woke up in tears. I'm not sure why it's just now getting to me but I have a hard time getting close to people, especially women. Yet another reason why I love this community. All you wonderful readers/bloggers out there are so sweet and supportive - even though I've never met most of you, I just want you all to know how much I appreciate you. It's nice having a support system, even if it is mostly anonymous.

It's always been hard for me to let down my walls to new people. I guess I don't trust many women because I've experienced firsthand how catty we can get. I hate drama & confrontation so I just try to stay away from it. But I think that aversion to drama has resulted in an aversion to close friends. I tend to keep most people at arm's length as much as possible. I think that's something I need to work on.

Breakfast: Yoatgurt
Mid-morning snack:
Afternoon snacks:
How does juice work into a daily serving of fruits/veggies? Would I count how many individual fruits go into it or measure it by ounces?
I finally tried some of my POM Wonderful juice. It reminded me of a sweeter version of cranberry juice. Only it has more depth. I think I need to buy some seltzer water to mix it with.Dinner was "chicken fried steak" with gravy, hot sauce and green beans. It's been a while since I've made this but I've posted the recipe for the steak here. It's extremely easy & surprisingly healthy for how good it tastes.
That's the "I didn't do it" look from miss Vern. I think she feels guilty just sitting on the new furniture. Unlike her sister who just scratches the hell out of it.
Workout: 5 miles on stationary bike

March 8:
  • Fruits: 7.5 servings (if I include the 2 apples and 4 oranges I juiced each as one)
  • Veggies: 2 servings

14 comments:

  1. I appreciate your honesty about the friend thing. I think that as we get older it is harder to make good and lasting friends. Maybe your plan to open up a bit will help. Yes, we women can be super catty, but there are lots of women out there who are not this way. I stay away from those drama/gossippy types. It doesn't take long to figure out who they are.

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  2. i appreciate this post a lot!!! sometimes things like facebook and seeing huge groups of girl posses on campus makes me jealous. i have 2 best friends and then a group that i am more an acquaintance to. blogging is definitely great for adding a new network of friends! i am sure with time you will meet more women.. quality is definitely more important than quantity though :)

    delicious eats!!!

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  3. I could have written this post... I live in the town I grew up in, but I left when I was 12 and moved back in my mid-20's. Everyone I knew has moved away and it has been really hard to meet people. It's been okay until lately, but it does wear you down... I really miss having people to meet for coffee/dinner. The last time I had coffee with a friend was when I was in NY in October. Hence my ever-online presence. I would be so lost without blogging! I am looking to start a class next semester...not sure what yet, but just hoping to have some human interraction and meet some people. Wish more bloggers lived closer! Definitely a lot harder as you get older...

    Yoatgurt = love. I am so obsessed with making it the night before and mixing it :D I need to try that chicken recipe...looks delish.

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  4. Loving that juice combo girl!!!

    And the Mojo Bar I love!!!!!

    Hope you have a great day!! xoxo

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  5. I love your honesty. And everything you said about the blogging community I second. I could have wrote the same thing this morning after realizing at 4am I don't have that many people to lean on here at school. I feel like everyone has moved on from high school and I'm stuck behind, and that's rough but I don't know what to do about it. It helps when I realize what I do have from blogger friends and my family.

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  6. I can agree with everything you said so much. I'm in enginerd grad school and only have guy friends (tons of friend from college were guys too). All of my really good girlfriends are on the east coast, so far away. College made it easy to meet people, but now that I work on grad school stuff all day, run, make dinner, and sleep, I'm not exactly that social. But hey, I'm in Fort Collins if you ever want to get some wine or anything! I can fully admit I don't have many friends here. -Katie

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  7. I'll have to read your last post, but I can relate a lot to the girlfriend issue. I had close girlfriends in high school, who I have now pretty much cut ties with because we are all just so different. Then in college, I joined a sorority but really didn't come away with more than one really good friend, and she lives really far away. The rest of my friends in college were all guys. THEN, as you know, I moved abroad and didn't want to get too attached to anyone, and now I am back in CA and more or less girlfriend-less (unless you could blog peeps, one or two friends from high school, and one or two friends from college who live far away).
    Just in case you were wondering ;)

    Finally tried Janetha's yoats and now I am totally hooked!

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  8. I'm actually kind of surprised that a lot of us have girlfriend issues. I've had a hard time too. I think for me it's the lack of time. Plus it takes SOOO much energy (and time) to nurture a relationship. Especially new ones.

    Being a military wife it also gets old. We've lived so many places and I've met SO many other wives. It's almost like dating. It just gets old hearing the same ol' questions. "So where are you from?".

    I've just kept one or two really close friends along the way and I'm ok with that. :)

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  9. I totally hear you on the girlfriends thing!! :)

    I feel like some of my blog friends are better friends than real ones!

    which made it interesting when I made wedding invites! I honestly wanted to invite some of my bloggy friends, but then thought that might be a wee bit weird! heheh

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  10. I relate to your friend issue too! Personally, I didn't go away to school so I didn't have the traditional college experience therefore no close friends from that time. My bestie and I have known each other since we were kids. Other than that, I have a few other close girl friends but that's about it. Quality over quantity in my book! Plus the bloggies are, indeed, great friends :)

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  11. wanna hear a secret? Why do you think I blog?! I moved to this city to be with my boyfriend but I'm actually extremely lonely at times. I knew I had to have a creative outlet when I noticed my binge eating was creeping back up. Gchat me anytime you get BORED/lonely! :)

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  12. I have a hard time letting people in too due to past friendships where girls have gotten way catty. I just can't deal with it. I hate drama and drama hates me. Keep your chin up! I will work on letting more people in with you. :)

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  13. gah, this post meant so much to me. living in nyc has been hard because it is not exactly the warmest of cities. since i moved here (2ish years ago) its been hard to make new girlfriends...people dont seem to want to "do things", and to be honest, i rarely find the time to "do" anything either. work work work. anyways, since i posted all about this crappola back in jan, i am not going to re-vent it all here on your comments section (sorry!), but i just wanted to say i definitely know what you mean. i have a few friends here, but for the most part, all my besties are back in CA...hopefully i will be able to join them soon.

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  14. hey gorgeous! sorry to be MIA but what matters is i am here now :) i know all about the girlfriend thing. it took me a long time to develop close girl friendships! i went through a lot of mean girls and that is why i had all dude friends! i agree, love the blog community! loving the yoats :) what is your yog mixed with? that juice looks deluxe! i remember your CFS recipe. yummmm! ok, enough rambling, lots of love!

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